Published on January 6, 2006 By Texas Wahine In Blogging
It's a man's world, right?

Females are subject to discrimination, injustice, and prejudice the world over, including America. Our society chooses to punish women and praise men for the same actions. Our society promotes the idea that women are too emotional and unstable, and not smart enough or physically capable to surpass a man in a given situation.

When a woman expresses anger or disgust, it is assumed that she is being overwhelmed by her fragile female emotions and not thinking clearly, and thus whatever she says should be disregarded. When a man expresses anger or disgust, it is not only his right, but he is given a pass for irrational and even violent behavior because it is considered acceptable for males.

Despite the strides women are making in the workforce and in politics, when a woman makes a mistake or a choice that others don't agree with, she is harpooned with (often cruel) jokes and criticisms targeting her sex.

When the Monica Lewinsky scandal came to light, the women involved were the ones who suffered the criticism. Monica was skewered for being overweight and made out to be a desperate slut. Hilary was laughed at as the cold and controlling wife and often looked to as explanation for why Bill would have an affair. Hilary's size and appearance are made fun of to this day. Bill, while joked about, was never portrayed as a gross, immoral creep, but rather painted as the jolly, smooth and smarmy ladies man. It was never as cruel, hurtful, or personal when it came to him. The women in the scandal were the ones who came out of it looking bad.

When a man sleeps around, it is expected. In fact, if a man doesn't do this, it is considered suspect. Men are expected to give in to their basest instincts and make crude jokes, live irresponsibly, and take advantage of women. No-strings-attached sex is encouraged for young men. Slovenly appearances are accepted as being a "boys will be boys" thing. Violence by men is considered par for the course, and often a blind eye is turned to it. Even being overweight, something females are almost proverbially crucified for, is considered fine for men. A guy can be fat and a complete slob who sleeps with anything that moves, and he is a stud.

When a female sleeps around, she is a slut who doesn't respect herself. Men will sleep with her but later talk about her as if she is the scum of the earth, despite the fact that they live the very same way. Young women are expected to be thin and fit, and if they aren't they're disgusting. They're the "fat chick". All the traits that are considered not only acceptable, but laudable, in young males are strikes against females.

Females are responsible for birth control in sexual encounters. The money for this comes from their pockets, of course. If a female doesn't take her birth control properly, and a pregnancy results, the male feels absolved of all guilt in the matter, despite the fact that he should have been responsible enough to use a condom. Women carry the bulk of the responsibility when it comes to pregnancy prevention and males are bold enough to proclaim, "she tricked me!" or "she told me she was on birth control" when their sexual union brings about a pregnancy. It's the woman's fault, of course.

An unmarried male who sleeps around can impregnate a female and deny his role in the pregnancy. A female who becomes pregnant must face the stigma of being a "slut" and irresponsible and all the other negative criticisms that come in such situations. He can walk away as if nothing happened and be free of responsibility. A female is saddled with the pregnancy which, if allowed to progress, will be an undeniable sign of her promiscuity. If she continues the pregnancy, she will experience the morning sickness, the bladder infections, the weight gain and stretch marks, the heartburn, the gestational diabetes, the high blood pressure, or worse. Her activities and lifestyle will be restricted for nine months while the male is not subject to any change in health, body, or lifestyle. Then there is labor and delivery and the lifelong responsibility of parenthood.

Statistically, when men have affairs the women tend to stay in the relationship. It's a rare situation where a woman has an affair and her husband doesn't divorce her.

Women are the ones who, typically, end up struggling to care for and financially support children after a divorce, while the man enjoys great personal freedom, a better financial situation, and sympathy and admiration from society. The stigma of divorce does not exist for males, but a divorced woman with children will have a much more difficult time finding someone interested in loving her and taking on her "baggage".

Women are expected by society to be trim and fit (but still indulge in pizza and beer and ice cream and cookies), educated and successful, great with domestic tasks (going behind the man and cleaning up after him, but never nagging, of course), beautiful and classy, chaste but salacious, permissive in matters that concern her man's behavior but completely devoted and adoring in her own, independent but needy, intelligent while giving deference to the superior wit of the male...it goes on and on.

Women are expected to be everything to everyone. Women are to be perfect and perfect inverted.

Women are not "queens" who hold all the power. Quite the opposite, actually.




Comments (Page 3)
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on Jan 09, 2006
I can express my thoughts, even ones that some may not agree with, without being irrational or overemotional, angry, or feeling bad.
Bravo! However, the male chauvinist will continue to "rant" that when women make sense they are irrational and overly emotional. C'est la vie.
on Jan 09, 2006
Awesomely writing TW. The comment about the overweight thing got me thinking. When it comes to guys they have a "beer belly" "spare tire" "more fuel for their love machine" etc. If your lucky and overweight female could have "more cushion for the pushin" but normally, it's just called "fat" "gross" and other nasty things.

I couldn't agree more with the pregnancy part either, for "us" the birth control failed, I had twins then "we" decided to have another baby and I had "our" son. Now, he is gone, has never seen "our" son, and has nothing to do with the girls either, he is free from kids, all he wants is pictures to prove his virility, and I will not give him that satisfaction. Hence, I'm a bitch. Before he left, his friends called him "pussy whipped" if he did anything nice for me or the kids.

Here is one.
Dad's sex talk to son: "here's a condom, go get em tiger, just don't knock em up"

Dad's sex talk to daughter: "Don't do it or you'll be called a slut or a cock tease" and "guys are only after one thing" don't forget "save it till marriage"

My first serious boyfriend's dad told him he should go "play the field a while and sew his wild oats" and he was a minister (Methodist).

There is a difference between men and women, but it's extenuated by the norm, what parents teach their son's and daughters, and the power of peer pressure.

Again, well written, I agree totally.
on Jan 10, 2006
Without wanting to sound like I'm pissing in pockets, I believe the weaker sex is man because of a lot of the reasons you stated in this article, Tex. I don't necessarily think all men are like the ones you've described but I certainly agree there are a lot who are exactly as you've portrayed them. Violent, unable to express their emotions, without self-control and completely unaware of anyone except themselves: these traits are so common, they're undeniable.

On the other hand, men cop a hard time if they're not some of these things too. Beer-swilling, football loving, emotionless muscles good for lifting heavy things and monosyllabic conversations males still exist, sure, but there are a lot of us out there who are definitely more highly-evolved.

Good article, as per usual, Tex.
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