Not Together, of Course
Published on March 18, 2007 By Texas Wahine In Blogging

I'm not eloquent like most of you and I don't have a fancy job or an exciting social life, but I have all kinds of thoughts (probably not of interest or value to JUs) that I might as well write down.  It's not like anyone's forced to read it, and there are other people *cough* who do the same.

My boys are off for Spring Break for 2 weeks.  That's a long frickin' time.  I love my boys very much, but when they are together 24/7 or when they are bored I begin to wish I could drink (more, LOL).

The other day they were grab-assing and Orian slammed the side of his head into a pointy ledge on the entertainment center.  He howled in pain and I was very worried.  I used the otoscope (yes, we have one) to look in his ear, but I couldn't tell what I was looking at since I'm not all that aquainted with the features of the inner ear.  I didn't see any blood or liquid so I took that as a sign that all was well.  I gave him some Tylenol and as soon as he gulped it down he proclaimed that he felt better, despite the fact that only minutes earlier I asked him to rate his pain and it was "the worst ever". 

I am hoping to plan some activities for them during Spring Break to break up the monotony and make things fun.  I think we'll work on some Cub Scout belt loops, too.  I should ask the boys which ones they want to earn most.

Today we've been playing Guitar Hero II and that game is hard.  Xavier loves it, though.  The MP3 player in my head alternates between Shout at the Devil and the music from Izzy's Jumperoo without mercy. 

Xavier tried the regular controller because he thought he could do better that way, and then he decided someone needed to design a controller that isn't "alien".  I told him he could do it and be rich and famous.  To which he replied, "I'm not good at that.  Mine would be, like, a sock taped to a stick."  We rolled on that one.  It's strange the kind of things that become funny when you're a parent.  My kids are just so brilliant with the humor.  Especially Xavier.

The house always seems to be trashed.  I'm not a particularly skilled housekeeper, but the boys are so hard to motivate.  I've been reading a lot of Dr. Sears and I think it's helped some.  Adrian read Kid Cooperation in Iraq and he's been emailing and calling me with ideas and tips he's gotten from it.  One of his examples for natural consequence was if Izzy craps her pants, she should have to do her laundry.  LOL.  Ok, I'm sure that's only funny to me.

I have charts for stickers for good behavior, a bulletin board for showing off good work, a green, yellow, red, blue card system for behavior, reminders of important things like the Cub Scout Promise and the Time Chant.  I have a suggestion box and a little hanging place for things the kids need to not forget to do or take with them.  I have a deployment chain.  Reminders on the mirrors in the bathrooms to do things like wash your hands and replace the toilet paper.  I think if the boys' teachers could see our house they would realize how hard I'm trying.  I get tired of hearing about every tiny infraction.  If my child calls another child a "banana" I really don't need to know about it.  If I'm not there to monitor and correct my child's behavior, it's all you, Miss Teacher.

Seriously, though, one time Xavier had to see the counselor for calling a kid a banana (like the fruit, no innuendo intended) and yet there's a kid at school who has repeatedly called him a "butt plug" without any punishment.

I just wish that the teachers could understand how awesome my boys are.  They act like little boys and they aren't perfect, but c'mon.  They are really cool human beings. 

I don't mean for this to turn into a school rant.

Isabella is growing up fast.  She rolls over and is trying very hard to crawl.  I wouldn't believe it except Orian crawled at 4 months.  She is so bald.  Poor baby.  But she has such a spunky personality.  It's funny how someone isn't in your life and that's ok, but then once you have them it feels like they were always there and you can't imagine your life without them. 

I'm just sad that Adrian is missing so much.  It's hard to watch her grow and become her own little person and reach milestones without someone to share it with.

And I hate making hard parenting decisions by myself.  Cause then I'm the only one to blame.

I'm so frickin' opinionated when it comes to parenting.  You guys have no idea.  And I play nice at the parenting website I spend time at, but I really have some solid beliefs about child-rearing and baby care.  I know I screwed things up before, but with experience and study I have come to form some concrete ideas about what should and should not happen and when it should and should not happen.  LOL.

And of course I'm a breastfeeding nazi.  Did you know Norway has a 99% breastfeeding rate?  I'm sure this is helped by their generous maternity policy, but I think it challenges the American idea that lots of women "can't" breastfeed. 

I think a lot of people think of human milk as being gross, but when you think about the fact that we drink milk from a COW, that's a lot grosser. 

And now I have a bowl of cereal to make because as we all know, anything that momma combines to create a food item is much more delicious and satisfying than anything a child might put together himself no matter how proficient he might be at it. 

Oh, and I didn't spell check this. 


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on Mar 19, 2007
Marcie:
Whoever gave you crap once about being a Mommy-blogger should be drug out into the street and shot. It's bunk.


Heh. Well I know both my personality and my life choices irritate some people. I don't especially like irritating people which is why I have often hesitated to write.

But they're not blasting me with microwaves, so that's good


LOL. One of the funniest things I've read today.

It's one thing when it's a baby and you mess up a gender...it's a little understandable...but you'd think with like a second grader you'd be able to get it right.


Hahaha. Well, I've seen little kids that you really couldn't tell. Most of the time little kids and babies have pretty androgynous faces and the hair and clothes clue you in. Some moms chop their little girls' hair off or they grow their little boys' hair out. It's confusing when they're still so little that they have those baby faces.

Right now it's "cool" for little girls to dress in boyish clothes, too.

Izzy has been called a boy 2 times.

The first time she was like 2 or 3 days old and she was wearing red and white striped pants and a Christmas onesie. And she was in her PINK carseat.

The second time I had her in her Red Hot Chili Peppers onesie and black shorts and no hairbow (we were in a hurry). She was in her khaki snugli.

I DO try to give people clues, LOL. But I WON'T pierce my baby's ears.

Don't feel bad, Marcie. Lots of people do it. Haha.

SHE:
Yes... my aunt glued a bow onto my cousin's head. When I say my cousin was bald... I mean bald. This was also a long time ago, when the headband bows weren't around. I don't know what kind of glue, and I don't know how she got it off.


Did you cousin suffer any brain damage? Haha. My mom use karo syrup to stick bows to my bald head. Apparently bald female babies runs in the family.

Izzy has hair, btw, she has a nice, thick medium brown mullet in the back. Haha. You can see it below her ear in the 3rd pic.

Here's a pic of my pretty girl with a pretty bow:



(Adrian thinks her constant bow-wearing is exacerbating her baldness, LOL)

Gid:
When we took Des in for her first Christmas picture, we DROWNED her in pink! Because we got so sick of hearing "Oh, HE'S adorable!"

(That's one of those embarassing stories we're saving for Des when she's a teen, to keep her focused...lol!)


Haha! Most babies don't look particularly boyish or girlish, but when they have a gender-specific outfit and are lost in a sea of blue or pink baby items, it shouldn't be too hard to guess. And when all else fails, just say, "What an adorable BABY!" (Note to Mason, haha, you can always say, "What a HAPPY baby!" )

We follow a lot of the AP philosophies as well. We've kind of come to pick a little of this, and a little of that, for something that fits us. So I know where you're coming from on all of this.


It's cool to know that, Gid. I don't follow every AP principle to the letter, but I think most of it is very solid and very realistic. We breastfeed, co-sleep (a dirty word nowadays), I wear her (she's not a sling fan, though, so I don't wear her as much as I would like), and we have lots of mommy-baby closeness.

Have you read The Successful Child or The Discipline Book? I am working on using those ideas with the boys. Some of it is stuff I've always done, but I feel like I need to read and more and know more and try more things because it is VERY hard to do it all by myself and I want to give my kids the best start I can.

You know, I understand where you're coming from being from a family of educators and all that, but you DO know, you'd make an excellent homeschooling parent, don't you? (laughs evilly).


Haha. If I thought I could do a good job with it, I would probably do it. I just don't have the patience or the smarts to do it.



on Mar 19, 2007
I love the pic of your beautiful daughter sitting in her purple seat. Cool toenails. Who was she looking at?

I'm not eloquent like most of you and I don't have a fancy job or an exciting social life, but I have all kinds of thoughts (probably not of interest or value to JUs) that I might as well write down. It's not like anyone's forced to read it, and there are other people *cough* who do the same.

I may not answer every article you write, but I do read it. Please don't sell yourself short. I find you eloquent and of interest and value to JU as much as anyone else.

Today we've been playing Guitar Hero II and that game is hard.

I tried it 3 times and totally sucked at it. But I must admit it very addicting.
on Mar 19, 2007


Today we've been playing Guitar Hero II and that game is hard.


I tried it 3 times and totally sucked at it. But I must admit it very addicting.



I don't play guitar hero, I live it
on Mar 19, 2007
UDigIt:
I love the pic of your beautiful daughter sitting in her purple seat. Cool toenails. Who was she looking at?


Thanks. She's looking at her big brother, Orian.

I may not answer every article you write, but I do read it. Please don't sell yourself short. I find you eloquent and of interest and value to JU as much as anyone else.


That's really nice. Thank you for saying that.

I tried it 3 times and totally sucked at it. But I must admit it very addicting.


LOL. Xavier and I have been cheating. We're using a controller (no strumming required) and he's doing half and I'm doing half (of the controller, not half of the song). It's pretty fun to play that way. Less pressure.

We're kicking some major ass right now, although Adrian says we're not kicking ass until we beat Monkeywrench on Hard. We beat it on Medium, though!

Maso:
I don't play guitar hero, I live it


  
on Mar 19, 2007
I'm so late to this but anyway! First of all Tex you're such a super cool mom in my book. If I were a child, you'ld be number 1 on my list! (I'd be number 2LOL!)

Your kids are awsome and you're doing a great job and anyone who says otherwise will be hearing from me!   

And you're a smart woman, don't sell yourself short ok?! Izzy is going to have beautiful hair soon, maybe when she's one but she will! My first born was the same way....people would mistake her for a boy even when she was dressed in pink! [that always made me upset] I can laugh at it now though!


Your children's teacher really need to do her job so you can do yours! Geech!

PS...I always enjoy reading you!
on Mar 19, 2007
Did you cousin suffer any brain damage? Haha. My mom use karo syrup to stick bows to my bald head. Apparently bald female babies runs in the family.


No brain damage... but her daughters were as bald as she was as a baby, though the boy was born with a full head of hair. I guess female baldness occurs when they are babies and male baldness happens later in life.
on Mar 20, 2007


Heh heh......banana.

I love Guitar Hero II. Have you tried the hard level yet? Blech. FREEBIRD!!!!!!!!

(p.s. with the mohawk, your child looks just like one of the characters, awesome!!!!)



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