Not Together, of Course
Published on March 18, 2007 By Texas Wahine In Blogging

I'm not eloquent like most of you and I don't have a fancy job or an exciting social life, but I have all kinds of thoughts (probably not of interest or value to JUs) that I might as well write down.  It's not like anyone's forced to read it, and there are other people *cough* who do the same.

My boys are off for Spring Break for 2 weeks.  That's a long frickin' time.  I love my boys very much, but when they are together 24/7 or when they are bored I begin to wish I could drink (more, LOL).

The other day they were grab-assing and Orian slammed the side of his head into a pointy ledge on the entertainment center.  He howled in pain and I was very worried.  I used the otoscope (yes, we have one) to look in his ear, but I couldn't tell what I was looking at since I'm not all that aquainted with the features of the inner ear.  I didn't see any blood or liquid so I took that as a sign that all was well.  I gave him some Tylenol and as soon as he gulped it down he proclaimed that he felt better, despite the fact that only minutes earlier I asked him to rate his pain and it was "the worst ever". 

I am hoping to plan some activities for them during Spring Break to break up the monotony and make things fun.  I think we'll work on some Cub Scout belt loops, too.  I should ask the boys which ones they want to earn most.

Today we've been playing Guitar Hero II and that game is hard.  Xavier loves it, though.  The MP3 player in my head alternates between Shout at the Devil and the music from Izzy's Jumperoo without mercy. 

Xavier tried the regular controller because he thought he could do better that way, and then he decided someone needed to design a controller that isn't "alien".  I told him he could do it and be rich and famous.  To which he replied, "I'm not good at that.  Mine would be, like, a sock taped to a stick."  We rolled on that one.  It's strange the kind of things that become funny when you're a parent.  My kids are just so brilliant with the humor.  Especially Xavier.

The house always seems to be trashed.  I'm not a particularly skilled housekeeper, but the boys are so hard to motivate.  I've been reading a lot of Dr. Sears and I think it's helped some.  Adrian read Kid Cooperation in Iraq and he's been emailing and calling me with ideas and tips he's gotten from it.  One of his examples for natural consequence was if Izzy craps her pants, she should have to do her laundry.  LOL.  Ok, I'm sure that's only funny to me.

I have charts for stickers for good behavior, a bulletin board for showing off good work, a green, yellow, red, blue card system for behavior, reminders of important things like the Cub Scout Promise and the Time Chant.  I have a suggestion box and a little hanging place for things the kids need to not forget to do or take with them.  I have a deployment chain.  Reminders on the mirrors in the bathrooms to do things like wash your hands and replace the toilet paper.  I think if the boys' teachers could see our house they would realize how hard I'm trying.  I get tired of hearing about every tiny infraction.  If my child calls another child a "banana" I really don't need to know about it.  If I'm not there to monitor and correct my child's behavior, it's all you, Miss Teacher.

Seriously, though, one time Xavier had to see the counselor for calling a kid a banana (like the fruit, no innuendo intended) and yet there's a kid at school who has repeatedly called him a "butt plug" without any punishment.

I just wish that the teachers could understand how awesome my boys are.  They act like little boys and they aren't perfect, but c'mon.  They are really cool human beings. 

I don't mean for this to turn into a school rant.

Isabella is growing up fast.  She rolls over and is trying very hard to crawl.  I wouldn't believe it except Orian crawled at 4 months.  She is so bald.  Poor baby.  But she has such a spunky personality.  It's funny how someone isn't in your life and that's ok, but then once you have them it feels like they were always there and you can't imagine your life without them. 

I'm just sad that Adrian is missing so much.  It's hard to watch her grow and become her own little person and reach milestones without someone to share it with.

And I hate making hard parenting decisions by myself.  Cause then I'm the only one to blame.

I'm so frickin' opinionated when it comes to parenting.  You guys have no idea.  And I play nice at the parenting website I spend time at, but I really have some solid beliefs about child-rearing and baby care.  I know I screwed things up before, but with experience and study I have come to form some concrete ideas about what should and should not happen and when it should and should not happen.  LOL.

And of course I'm a breastfeeding nazi.  Did you know Norway has a 99% breastfeeding rate?  I'm sure this is helped by their generous maternity policy, but I think it challenges the American idea that lots of women "can't" breastfeed. 

I think a lot of people think of human milk as being gross, but when you think about the fact that we drink milk from a COW, that's a lot grosser. 

And now I have a bowl of cereal to make because as we all know, anything that momma combines to create a food item is much more delicious and satisfying than anything a child might put together himself no matter how proficient he might be at it. 

Oh, and I didn't spell check this. 


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on Mar 18, 2007
I'm not eloquent like most of you


Yes you are!   

Heh, I just waved my oldest goodbye as he left back for college on Spring break. Ya know, raising these kids doesn't really ever get easier.

I think a lot of people think of human milk as being gross, but when you think about the fact that we drink milk from a COW, that's a lot grosser.



Hmmmm....you make a valid point.
on Mar 18, 2007
Isabella is growing up fast. She rolls over and is trying very hard to crawl. I wouldn't believe it except Orian crawled at 4 months.


Joshua's already scooting out of his car seat when we leave him in it! I know what you mean!

I have a hunch Joshua and Quinn are going to be a wild pair when they get older!

As for breastfeeding, I know what you mean as well. Amy has always breastfed on demand and because we've never followed a silly schedule, our kids have always grown as fast or faster than bottle fed kids (Joshua's already in size 2 diapers!)

In case you didn't see it on the other article, we got the package in yesterday. Thanks! Amy thought the outfit was cute, and the kids loved the candy.

on Mar 18, 2007
I think a lot of people think of human milk as being gross, but when you think about the fact that we drink milk from a COW, that's a lot grosser.


I agree 100% Personally I would never suck on a cow teat. Do you know we're the only animal on the planet that drinks milk past infancy? Pretty dumb really.

As you can tell I'm not a milk fan at all.

I'm not eloquent like most of you


Oh please! Your writing is very direct and down to earth. I like that. $10 words are generally used by those who actually have nothing to say but want to say it anyway.



They act like little boys and they aren't perfect, but c'mon. They are really cool human beings.


I was a real problem child when I was a kid. And look how I turned out. Err, scratch that, bad example.
on Mar 18, 2007
Shovel:
Heh, I just waved my oldest goodbye as he left back for college on Spring break. Ya know, raising these kids doesn't really ever get easier.


Aww, Joe. I am not looking forward to all that!

After a particularly bad casualty Adrian once told me that the boys could never join the Army and that further, they were never leaving for college.

As much as I want them to grow into well-adjusted, happy MEN, it hurts to think about them becoming adults and going their own ways. I hope they'll want to be around mom and dad and bring their own families around.

Hmmmm....you make a valid point.


Damn Skippy.

Gid:
Joshua's already scooting out of his car seat when we leave him in it! I know what you mean!


Crazy. They just grow so fast.

I have a hunch Joshua and Quinn are going to be a wild pair when they get older!


LOL. Boys together are like nothing else on Earth. Haha.

I think it's cool that in your family everyone has a brother and a sister (or more than one!). I like that my boys will have the experience of playing with and detesting a brother AND a sister. Haha.

As for breastfeeding, I know what you mean as well. Amy has always breastfed on demand and because we've never followed a silly schedule, our kids have always grown as fast or faster than bottle fed kids (Joshua's already in size 2 diapers!)


Wow. Big boy. That's some good milk!

I BF on-demand, too. I think scheduling is a ridiculous, old-fashioned idea that can sometimes lead to a baby who doesn't thrive. (See? Opinionated.)

In case you didn't see it on the other article, we got the package in yesterday. Thanks! Amy thought the outfit was cute, and the kids loved the candy.


I'm so glad it got there and that Amy liked it! It seems like now that I have a girl they have all sorts of cute boy things out!

I thought it was funny, too, that the candy was a "product of Canada". Haha.

Mason:
I agree 100% Personally I would never suck on a cow teat. Do you know we're the only animal on the planet that drinks milk past infancy? Pretty dumb really.


Well, milk is the perfect food...for baby cows.

I also find it interesting that extended breastfeeding is so common elsewhere (and recommended by health organizations worldwide), but in America we freak out if a baby nurses past 1 year. Breastmilk continues to be a superfood well beyond that point and makes an excellent addition to the healthy solids diet of a toddler.

Oh please! Your writing is very direct and down to earth. I like that. $10 words are generally used by those who actually have nothing to say but want to say it anyway.


Hey thanks, that means a lot.

I was a real problem child when I was a kid. And look how I turned out. Err, scratch that, bad example.


LOL. I think that's what's difficult. You make all these choices and try your best but you really can't judge, based on what a child is like when he or she is young, exactly what kind of adult they will turn out to be. At least I don't think you can.

Although if my boys were torturing small animals I might be concerned.

on Mar 18, 2007

Yeah, so good to read this Tex.  I was wondering about you and your lack of blogging...or allowing us to be voyeurs on your life.

I miss your life.

Um, what does that say about mine? hahahaha

Just another what?  4 months or so and you will have a full house again?

I agree with the breast milk thing.  I wonder, if there weren't substitutes how many women would REALLY not be able to do it.  Watching your child at another woman's breast (wet nurse) probably isn't a great feeling.  I wouldn't like it.

Great read...and would you stop already with the...

but I have all kinds of thoughts (probably not of interest or value to JUs)

Come on.  Speaking for myself, you are one of the reasons I stayed at JU when I found it.  (Does that make me your toadie?)  Heh.

My only suggestion.....WRITE MORE.

 

on Mar 18, 2007
My only suggestion.....WRITE MORE.


Ditto. You along with a few others is why I keep coming back. One (wo)man's boring is another man's interesting.
on Mar 18, 2007
I enjoy reading your articles and hope you write more.

As for the teacher calling you about the banana episode...yeah, that is probably a bit too much. As a teacher you REALLY have to remind yourself that bad things aren't the only things you should be contacting parents about.

Maybe this teacher needs to send notes home when your boys do something good at school. It doesn't have to be a long letter...just a sentnece or two giving you something positive to smile about.

You should let her know this, too...to tell you the GOOD things as well.


on Mar 18, 2007
Tova:
Yeah, so good to read this Tex. I was wondering about you and your lack of blogging...or allowing us to be voyeurs on your life.
I miss your life.


Aww, thanks.

Um, what does that say about mine? hahahaha


That you're AWESOME? Haha.

I agree with the breast milk thing. I wonder, if there weren't substitutes how many women would REALLY not be able to do it. Watching your child at another woman's breast (wet nurse) probably isn't a great feeling. I wouldn't like it.


I have wondered about that myself. I think if you had no easy alternative, you would find a way to make it work.

I agree that it's not *easy* for everyone (Izzy and I fought about it a lot in the beginning and I doubted my ability to succeed as well, but we kept at it), but I think the number of women who truly *can't* is very small, otherwise the human species wouldn't have survived and thrived as it has. LOL.

Of course, every woman has the right to choose, etc., etc., and babies aren't harmed by formula, but gosh, the perfect stuff at the right temperature and in very attractive containers is just right there waiting for you. Why not use it?

See, see? I'm such a breastfeeding nazi. LOL.

(Does that make me your toadie?)


Haha.

Shovel:
Ditto. You along with a few others is why I keep coming back. One (wo)man's boring is another man's interesting.


I have a hard time believing that all this crap is interesting to other people, but I can't say I don't like the praise, hahahaha.

Rose:
I enjoy reading your articles and hope you write more.


Thank you.

Maybe this teacher needs to send notes home when your boys do something good at school. It doesn't have to be a long letter...just a sentnece or two giving you something positive to smile about.


I think that's one of the most frustrating aspects of the parent-teacher relationship (the fact that communication either way is often only in response to something negative).

I have a whole lot on my plate (obviously NOT the teacher's fault or problem, LOL), and unless she wants me to play Supernanny for her classroom, these small things just need to be dealt with and move on. I definitely want to know if there is a trend of disruption or name-calling on the part of my child (which would be cause for a conference), but I really don't need to have to sign a slip acknowledging every.single.tiny. misbehavior on the part of my obviously not perfect child. Gah.

The boys have had teachers that have been very positive and it is definitely reflected back in my children's attitude when there is a sense of acceptance in the classroom. Kids who feel their teacher "likes" and values them are positive and want to please that teacher and not let them down.

This is very much like the parent-child relationship. Hehe, quoting Dr. Sears, "A child who feels right, acts right" (meaning feels "right" inside about themselves and their value as a person).

Sorry to write a book there, Rose!

You should let her know this, too...to tell you the GOOD things as well.


Great idea.






on Mar 18, 2007
I forgot to comment on the banana thing. You really need to teach your kids better words like asshat, failed abortion, and my all time favorite as a kid - dingleberry muncher.
on Mar 18, 2007
Mason: LOL.

Your poor mother!

(Actually, my kids have at-home words and everywhere-else words, but asshat and failed abortion aren't on the approved list, haha)
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on Mar 18, 2007
m not eloquent like most of you and I don't have a fancy job or an exciting social life, but I have all kinds of thoughts (probably not of interest or value to JUs)


I think that kind of crap talk needs to stop RIGHT NOW young lady.

I know *I* for one have been missing the amount that you write...

I don't really care what you write about, just as long as you do. I like hearing about your kids, or your boobs, or seeing pictures of Izzy, or about how Adrian not being there really sucks goat's ass. You're as eloquent, if not moreso, than ANYONE here on JU, and anything you write is certainly of interest or of value. Look at all these comments you've gotten.

So take that, Grandma!
on Mar 18, 2007
I love your writing and if i wasn't so brain dead I would try to think of something nice and cool and funny to say....but i'm fried so I love you and keep telling yourself you are fantastic.
on Mar 18, 2007
I'm not as eloquent like most of you...

Yes you are!


Was gonna say the same thing myself. I like the natural, easy way you write you anecdotes. It makes this reader feel more like I'm having a conversation with you and I like that a lot.

I'm pleased to hear the boys are being boys. But I don't understand how Xavier can get carpeted for 'banana' while the 'butt plug' kid gets away with it. Maybe the teacher is so conservative she doesn't know what a 'butt plug' is...

Further to the breast milk thing, not only are we the only animals who drink milk beyond infancy but we're also the only animals to drink the milk of other animals on a regular basis. Now that is weird...


on Mar 18, 2007
Though I love seeing the wonderful pictures you post, I, too, miss your writing. You claim that you have nothing to write about, but that's silly. Your life experience is just as valuable (and sometimes more) as the next person's. After all, Alexander Pope said, "The proper study of mankind is man." Plus, I like to think I can learn from what others write. Like I've learned that scheduling babies is probably not best for them.

One of his examples for natural consequence was if Izzy craps her pants, she should have to do her laundry. LOL. Ok, I'm sure that's only funny to me.


Nope, funny to me too. I've actually heard of this method... though I think it is usually used on older kids.

I have to ask, why banana? He's not a Gwen Stefani fan, is he?

And, I'm not getting into the milk thing. I don't want to think about it... I love my cow milk.
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